Planning a Tribute
When planning a tribute to a loved one, here are some of the types of questions which can help. Not all of the questions will be relevant in all cases but this is only intended as a guide.
- Date and place of birth
- Parents names and occupations
- Where was childhood spent
- Did (s)he have any brothers or sisters
- What schools were attended
- Any further education or professional qualifications
- Was (s)he married and, if so, to whom
- Where and when did they meet
- Where did they live at the time and where since
- Details of grandchildren, great-grandchildren etc.
- Outside of work what hobbies or interests did (s)he have
- Was (s)he a member of any club
- Did pets play a big part in his/her life
- Where have holidays been spent over the years
- Has the persons health affected their life
- Did (s)he have any special likes or dislikes
- What are your favourite memories of him/her
- How is (s)he best described
Each tribute is a highly personalized composition and there may well be other aspects of the person’s life which would not come out through the above questions. Planning a tribute should not be like an interview, it should be like a conversation about the person’s life but I hope that the above topics give some food for thought.
Richard J.W. Binks
Member of the Institute of Civil Funerals